“Never walk in someone else’s shadow, we’re all different and unique.” These are the words of Lilian, passionate about the discipline of Pole, who does not hesitate to pursue her dreams … her desires.
From London, Polegood invites you to know her history.
Lily, would you tell us how you got to Pole Dance?
I had always wanted to pole dance, however I was always been concerned about how my family, friends and work would react. When my mum passed away, it left an unimaginable void in my life. It also made me realise that ”we’re here today and gone tomorrow”. I saw a taster session on Groupon, and booked it. I loved it, and I’ve not looked back since, and this was three years ago.
How is your life outside of sport?
I have two children, one in their early twenties, and the other under ten.
I work full time. My role involves implementing company’s quality controls and policies using a risk based approach.
In addition to the above, I’m studying to qualify in my profession, and I am the wife of a very supportive husband. He’s been my confidant, and my voice of reason throughout my journey.
Within your career as an athlete of the Pole, what moments would you highlight?
Hahaha, in the first three months of pole I took the plunge and bought myself some 8inch pleaser (the heavy clear ones) I think the norm is to gradually work your way up, but I went straight for the 8’s. They were soo heavy, and at that time I could barely invert. I suffered my first groin strain just lifting my leg! hahaha.
That aside, I’ve had the honour of performing at Miss Pole UK, London’s first Floorplayuk, Dance Filthy UK, most recently the Uks first Black Girls pole event hosted at Polefit in London, and collaborating with some fantastic and extremely talented photographers to produce some great work.
According to your experience, what are the benefits that the disciple of Pole Dance brings to the athletes who practice it?
For me personally, I’d say my body’s changed and my overall fitness has improved exponentially, and I’m almost 40.
I’m a late starter, but I see the benefit in terms of being able to focus on my fitness goals, since my family is already established.
Also, I’ve grown to love myself the way I am, after two kids the bodies not what it was, and I accept that now, and embrace my body.
I got caught up in the hype, then I realised that by doing so, I was losing my identity. I’m soo over the hype, and just embracing who I am.
It’s help me to become more assertive (when i have to be) throughout my life, and given me an awareness of my surroundings I never had before.
How do you see the development of the discipline of Pole, in London?
Wow, I had no idea of the size of the pole community, and I guess because I’d been so focused on my development, that until recent events I hadn’t seen and realised how much was going on in London.
I’m a pretty reserved person, and not really so much in the pole mix, but for the fact that such significant pole competitions and shows are coming, and are hosted here in London, this leads me to believe that we’re definitely well connected globally.
I’m a little young in this game to really comment anymore than that.
With what other disciplines do you complement this activity?
Hahaha none at the moment, apart from rolling around on the floor at home, while the family sleep. I’m not keen on the gym, and I feel that I’ve seen more improvements in terms of my health and fitness just through pole dancing.
How would you define your style as a dancer?
I love sexy flow, incorporating floor work with pole. I wouldn’t say I have a style persay, I’m just very passionate about music, and love all genres.
Put the music on and I’ll just dance to it wherever I am. I just love to dance whatever the style.
A message that you want to leave us?
I have two:
1) Don’t be afraid to try things that are outside of your comfort zone.
It will be uncomfortable (it’s meant to be), but you will progress. Yes you’ll make mistakes along the way, but I believe that behind every mistake there is a lesson to be learnt. This is my life moto.
2) Never walk in someone else’s shadow, we’re all different and unique. Seek inspiration and admiration from others, and strive to be the best “you” can be.
CREDIT PHOTOS: Michael Hodgson Ph. – @thenomadiclondoner – @medejaphotography – @dzhey_photography
Full Name: polepassionldn
Where were you born?: London
Birthdate: Summer 🌞
Where do you live?: London
Zodiac sign?: Libra
Awards, mention them: none at the moment, but the experience has been invaluable.
Thank you Lily, for allowing us to spread a little bit of your story.
Vanesa S. Zylinski- Polegood Magazine.